Ask what kind of help a friend wants

Role-play page

“My friend is upset. I can ask what would help.”

A practice conversation

Rowan says, “I worked hard on the group project. Nobody used my part.”

Start with one question

“Do you want me to listen, help you think of what to do, or just sit with you?”

Pick a reply for Rowan

Rowan says | You could say

“Just listen.” | “Okay. What happened next?”

“Help me think of what to do.” | “We could write down what you wanted the group to hear.”

“Can you just sit with me?” | “Sure. I can stay a minute.”

Switch roles

For the second round, use this line from a different student: “I thought I’d make the team, but I didn’t.” Try the same question and let your partner choose a reply.

Teacher guide

6 minutes • Use the role-play page. Pair up or read both roles.

When to use it

In advisory or a small group when students want to help friends and tend to jump into advice.

Why this activity

Students practice finding out what a friend wants before offering a solution.

What to say and do

1. Read the group project example. Model asking the question and waiting for an answer.

2. Let partners choose a reply and practice the matching line.

3. Switch roles with the team example. Ask what they said or did after their friend answered.

What to listen or look for

A student asks, waits, and follows the reply. If the friend wants listening, “Tell me more” fits. If someone shares a real safety concern, help them reach an adult.

Background and activity inspiration

https://ggie.berkeley.edu/practice/listening-with-compassion/